The Path Between Us
The Path Between Us
  • Length: 240 pages
  • Dimensions: 5.5 × 8.25 in
  • Published: April 10, 2018
  • Item Code: 4647
  • ISBN: 978-0-8308-4647-4

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Most of us have no idea that others don't see as we see, nor do they process their experiences in the same way we do. And that fact is especially crucial in relationships, whether with intimate partners, friends, or colleagues. A person whose go-to stance in life relies on feeling and another whose orientation is toward thinking or acting will respond completely differently to everything from a simple request in an email to a life crisis. Understanding the motivations and dynamics of these different personality types can be the key that unlocks sometimes mystifying behavior in others—and in ourselves.

Suzanne Stabile's book on the nine Enneagram types and how they behave and experience relationships will guide readers into deeper insights about themselves, their types, and others’ personalities so that they can have healthier, more life-giving relationships.

"Suzanne has been a priceless source of wisdom in my life for many years. She is without question the best Enneagram teacher out there."

Nadia Bolz-Weber, author of Accidental Saints

"Few people can teach you the Enneagram with the genuine insight, humor, and potential for real growth and change better than Suzanne Stabile! Savor every page. You, your friends and family, and the universe will all benefit!"

Richard Rohr, Center for Action and Contemplation, Albuquerque, New Mexico

"After reading The Path Between Us, I felt like I understood my friends and family better than I have before, as well as the way I can be a better husband, father, friend, and coworker. This is a practical guide to understanding relationships through the Enneagram. This is a book you won’t just read—you’ll reference it for years to come."

Mike McHargue, author of Finding God in the Waves, host of The Liturgists Podcast and Ask Science Mike

"Rarely have I read a book so perfectly titled. The Path Between Us helps the reader understand the sometimes complex interplay between Enneagram types. As a person who has long studied and tried to apply the Enneagram to my own relationships, this book is indeed the best guide I have found on the subject."

James Bryan Smith, author of The Good and Beautiful God

"If you've heard of the Enneagram but never understood it, the introduction to The Path Between Us is worth the price of this book; it provides the best short introduction to the Enneagram that I’ve ever seen. Each chapter is equally amazing. If you struggle to understand and get along with anyone—spouse, child, parent, boss, coworker, employee—you will find insights into what makes them tick and how you can forge a path of connection to them. In the process, you’ll learn a lot about yourself as well. A treasure!"

Brian D. McLaren, author of The Great Spiritual Migration

"Suzanne has a terrific way of taking the complexities of an ancient, wonderful resource and making them practical and relevant for today. I love the tool, and I love Suzanne’s way of presenting it. She is the best there is in illuminating the tangible benefits of the Enneagram."

Paul Rasmussen, senior minister at Highland Park United Methodist, Dallas

"In our individualistic age, we often wrongly assume we can understand ourselves best through deeper self-exploration alone. Sometimes, unfortunately, the Enneagram is used in this way. My friend Suzanne Stabile understands that we are people made for relationships, and that we cannot understand who we are as individuals without better understanding others and how we relate to them. The Path Between Us offers a pathway to greater empathy, compassion, and wisdom in your relationships, and that is a gift for those who love you and for you too! I’m so grateful to have Suzanne as a friend and guide on so many of life’s most important questions. With this book, Suzanne will guide you as well."

Michael Wear, author of Reclaiming Hope: Lessons Learned in the Obama White House About the Future of Faith in America

"While you're reading The Path Between Us, you'll be making a list in your head of all the loved ones you'll be blessing with this book. You'll want them to have it because this is deep wisdom about the human journey and yet, at the same time and as always, Suzanne offers it to us in such accessible and practical ways."

Burt Burleson, University Chaplain and Dean of Spiritual Life at Baylor University

"In a readable and engaging flow, The Path Between Us helps me to recognize my own contested corners of difficulty as I relate to people I love and cherish. I appreciate the direct language that Suzanne Stabile uses; she never minces words and she illustrates the truths of each person through the warmth of stories people tell about themselves. You can't giggle in print, but Suzanne clearly delights in the variety of human perspectives across the Enneagram. Her enthusiasm and delight are contagious; she is the Oprah of the Enneagram."

Suzii Paynter, executive coordinator of the Cooperative Baptist Fellowship

"Since personality shapes our formation, many of us wonder how the Enneagram can help us belong in our closest relationships. We trust Suzanne Stabile to guide us in this discovery because of her wisdom and experience, and even more because of her generosity of spirit, social intelligence, and whole-hearted love for people. The Path Between Us will help you be more compassionate toward the people in your life and yourself."

Mark Scandrette and Lisa Scandrette, authors of Belonging and Becoming: Creating a Thriving Family Culture

"Delightful relationship guide based on the Enneagram."

Publishers Weekly, March 12, 2018

"A fascinating view into different ways of being."

Library Journal, March 1, 2018


Eights: Vulnerability Is Not Weakness
Nines: Risking Conflict for Connection
Ones: Things Could Always Be Better
Twos: Your Feelings or Mine?
Threes: Being Everyone but Myself
Fours: Go Away But Don’t Leave
Fives: My Fences Have Gates
Sixes: Question Everything
Sevens: It's All Good
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Suzanne Stabile

Suzanne Stabile is a highly sought-after speaker, teacher, and internationally recognized Enneagram master teacher who has taught thousands of people over the last thirty years. She is the author of The Path Between Us, and coauthor, with Ian Morgan Cron, of The Road Back to You. She is also the creator and host of The Enneagram Journey podcast. Along with her husband, Rev. Joseph Stabile, she is cofounder of Life in the Trinity Ministry, a nonprofit, nondenominational ministry committed to the spiritual growth and formation of adults. Their ministry home, the Micah Center, is located in Dallas, Texas.