Enduring Friendship

Enduring Friendship

Sticking Together in an Age of Unfriending

by Bryan C. Loritts
Foreword by John Mark Comer

Enduring Friendship
  • Length: 160 pages
  • Dimensions: 5 × 7 in
  • Published: March 12, 2024
  • Item Code: A0844
  • ISBN: 978-1-5140-0844-7

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Friendships are difficult.

Sometimes it can seem as if friends are more work and pain than they're worth, with friendship challenges that we have to endure and struggle through. Life gets in the way of our well-intentioned efforts to connect. Conflicts and differences over serious issues divide us and make us think that we could never be close to a person ever again. In today's cancel culture, it's easy to give up on people and just walk away, leaving us all more isolated than before. How can we build real relationships that are life giving and pass the test of time?

Bryan Loritts mines one of the Bible's least-known books for insights into how friendships can flourish even in the midst of sin and brokenness. With careful exposition and insight, he unpacks how the apostle Paul helped Philemon and Onesimus reconcile a most unlikely relationship with truth, repentance, and grace. With God’s work and steadfast love, even the most painful relationships that have ruptured are not beyond the reach of forgiveness and reconciliation. Discover how friendships that are hard can be transformed into friendships that endure.

"Bryan is painfully honest about the challenge of long-term friendships. Yet you read this book and come away burning with desire to bare your soul to another in love. . . . I walked away from reading Enduring Friendship not only recaptured by the beauty of the gospel, but also deeply moved by the power of grace."

John Mark Comer, author of The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry, from the foreword

"Let's face it, the statistics are not good about grownups, especially men, and their ability to maintain close friendships outside their family. Bryan Loritts confronts this reality with a book-length antidote to a growing culture of friendless lives. His blunt honesty, practical remedy, biblical fidelity, and heart of charity will leave you hopeful that indeed, friendships new and old can endure."

Barry H. Corey, president of Biola University and author of Love Kindness: Discovering the Power of a Forgotten Christian Virtue

"Friendships are difficult to navigate; friendships among believers in Christ are no less difficult. They may even be more difficult as there is a level of accountability built into that friendship based on a mutual desire to live out the mandate to be like Christ. Dr. Loritts masterfully and lovingly leads us by way of careful exegesis through the powerful letter of Paul to Philemon. I highly recommend this book for anyone who wants to strengthen a friendship or repair a ruptured one."

Jody Moore, lead pastor of Transformation Church-Inland Empire in Chino, California


Introduction: From "I Will" to "I Did"

1. Why Friendships Are So Hard
2. Cultivating Friendship

Part 1: Truth
3. Halos and Horns
4. Risky Truth: Facing Up to the Beast
5. The Problem with Winning

Part 2: Repentance
6. The Long Walk Back to Colossae
7. Excuses
8. The Calvary Way

Part 3: Grace
9. Hesed
10. The Fulcrum of Grace
11. Useless to Useful
12. What If?



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Bryan C. Loritts (DMin, Liberty University) is teaching pastor of the Summit Church in Durham, North Carolina. He has dedicated his life and ministry to seeing the multiethnic church become the new normal in our society. He is also vice president for regions for the Send Network, the church planting arm of the Southern Baptist Convention, where he is responsible for training church planters in multiethnic church planting. He has been a featured speaker at the Global Leadership Summit and Catalyst. He is the award-winning author of eight books including Insider Outsider, The Dad Difference, and The Offensive Church. He and his wife, Korie, have three adult children.