Counseling Couples in Conflict

A Relational Restoration Model

Christian Association for Psychological Studies Books

by James N. Sells and Mark A. Yarhouse

Counseling Couples in Conflict
paperback
  • Length: 300 pages
  • Published: April 2011
  •  In stock
  • ISBN: 978-0-8308-3925-4
  • Item Code: 3925
  • Case Quantity: 32

Most therapeutic approaches, especially those of a cognitive orientation, are not very effective in dealing with high conflict relationships--couples often heading toward divorce by the time they seek help.

Counseling Couples in Conflict is a resource for pastors and counselors who want to be ready for these uniquely difficult cases. Utilizing a relational conflict and restoration model Mark Yarhouse and James Sells point the way beyond the cycle of pain towards marital healing.

"The institution and even the definition of marriage continue to be in turmoil and the subject of debate and controversy within our culture today. Yet, the Scriptures portray marriage as a beautiful metaphor of the union between Christ and his bride, the church. As such, couples face not only the challenges and obstacles inherent in any human relationship but must also contend with the spiritual forces of darkness that seek to destroy this image. Discord, pain, misunderstanding and hurt are inevitable. Counseling Couples in Conflict offers a solid integration of biblical principles and counseling skills with clinical theory that helps foster relational wholeness. Practical case examples are utilized throughout to illustrate key points and provide a balanced model for restoration. Whether a pastoral counselor or a professional mental health clinician, this book is an essential resource for anyone doing marital work."

Eric T. Scalise, Ph.D., LPC, LMFT, Vice President for Professional Development, The American Association of Christian Counselors

"Counseling Couples in Conflict is a clearly written and helpful book based on a relational restoration model. I highly recommend it for pastors, Christian counselors and lay counselors who are involved in helping couples."

Siang-Yang Tan, Ph.D., professor of psychology, Fuller Theological Seminary, and author of Counseling and Psychotherapy: A Christian Perspective

"Addressing the concerns of professional counselors and pastoral counselors alike, Sells and Yarhouse offer a biblically-based, theological-grounded and therapeutically-sound model for working specifically with couples in conflict. I recommend this book for beginning counselors and for seasoned colleagues in the field. It definitely has a home on my bookshelves."

Virginia T. Holeman, Ph.D., professor of counseling, Asbury Theological Seminary, and author of Reconcilable Differences

"The major cause of divorce isn't problems with finances, in-laws, parenting or sex. The major cause is that couples don't know how to deal with conflict around those issues. This long-overdue integrative resource is an invaluable tool and should be in the hands of every counselor. If you want to help couples take their marriage from good to great then you must read this book. It will be required reading for all of my students."

Gary J. Oliver, Th.M., Ph.D., executive director of The Center for Relationship Enrichment and professor of psychology and practical theology at John Brown University

"What this book does best is make the reader fell like they are receiving profound clinical supervision from a wise and experienced therapist. Making a book feel like a supervision session is a true gift that any clinician can appreciate, especially those who are working in the trenches of marital conflict."

Keri L. Barnett, Journal of Psychology and Christianity, 2012, Vol. 31, No. 4
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CONTENTS

Acknowledgments
Introduction

Part 1: The Preface to Marital Counseling
1 Marriage at a Crucial Stage of Existence
2 Three Fights in One
3 Marriage Is an Us
4 Pastoral and Counseling Boundaries: Invested but not Overinvolved

Part 2: The Process of Conflict and Restoration
5 Pain and Defense
6 Offense and Injury
7 Grace, and Justice
8 Empathy and Trust
9 Forgiveness

Part 3: Marital Counseling Applied
10 The Expressive Art of Sexuality
11 The Product of Art: Children and Parenting
12 Sexual Infidelity
13 Divorce and Blended Families
14 Substance Abuse and Behavioral Addictions
15 A Graceful Conclusion

Index

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James N. Sells (PhD, University of Southern California) is professor of counseling and director of the PhD program in counselor education and supervision at Regent University in Virginia Beach, Virginia, where he has taught since 2005. He has served on the faculties of Northern Illinois University and West Texas A&M University, and he is also a licensed psychologist. He is the coauthor of Counseling Couples in Conflict and Family Therapies.

Sell’s research, private practice, and teaching seminars have focused on marital conflict, reconciliation, and forgiveness. Additionally, he has published work in clinical supervision, individual and group psychotherapy, and international applications of the counseling profession. His research has been published in the Journal of Counseling Psychology, Journal of Counseling and Development, Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, The Family Journal, Journal of Family Therapy, and Journal of College Student Development.

Mark A. Yarhouse (PsyD, Wheaton College) is the Rosemarie S. Hughes Endowed Chair and professor of psychology at Regent University where he directs the Institute for the Study of Sexual Identity and is a core faculty member in the doctoral program in clinical psychology. A licensed clinical psychologist, he practices privately in the Virginia Beach area, providing individual, couples, family, and group counseling.

Yarhouse has published over eighty peer-reviewed journal articles and book chapters and is author or coauthor of several books, including Understanding Gender Dysphoria, Modern Psychopathologies, Understanding Sexual Identity, Sexuality and Sex Therapy, and Homosexuality and the Christian. He serves on the editorial board of the Journal of Psychology and Theology and Christian Counseling Today, and has served as an ad hoc reviewer with Journal of Homosexuality.

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