Learning to Be
 

Learning to Be

Finding Your Center After the Bottom Falls Out

by Juanita Campbell Rasmus
Foreword by Tina Knowles Lawson

Learning to Be
paperback
  • Length: 176 pages
  • Dimensions: 5.5 × 8.5 in
  • Published: July 26, 2022
  •  Forthcoming
  • ISBN: 978-1-5140-0382-4
  • Item Code: A0382
  • Case Quantity: 60

It felt as though every nerve in my body was popping. Imagine large strong hands slowly applying pressure while breaking a family-size package of uncooked, dry spaghetti. I was the spaghetti. Breaking down one piece at a time.

This is how Juanita Rasmus begins the wise, frank, and witty account of what she later called "The Crash" and what her counselor labeled "a major depressive episode." This experience landed Juanita, a busy pastor, mother, and community leader, in bed. In addition to exhaustion and depression, on the spiritual front she experienced a dark night of the soul. When everything in her life finally came to a stop, she found that she had to learn to be—with herself and with God—all over again.

Pastor Juanita writes from her life with kind attention to the life of the reader. She offers both practical and spiritual insights but never pat answers. If you are longing for a trustworthy companion through dark days, this book is here for you. Each chapter includes life-giving spiritual practices to help you discover your own new ways of being.

CONTENTS

Foreword: Tina Knowles Lawson

1 The Stress of Living in a Do-Do-Do World
2 Who Am I?
INTERLUDE: AN ODE TO THE PRODIGAL BROTHER
3 The Hollow Bunny Rules
4 Perfectionism and the Good Girl
INTERLUDE: A FAMILY’S DILEMMA—REFLECTIONS OF RYAN AND RUDY
5 Could I Just Hit Bottom Already?
6 Finding My Being
INTERLUDE: DOING . . . DOING . . . DONE!
7 Getting Free of My Notions
8 What’s Anger Got to Do with It?
INTERLUDE: DEPRESSION’S WARNING SIGNS
9 Letting Go of Judgment
10 Claiming a New Identity
11 Have-to Versus Want-To
INTERLUDE: HIKING A MOUNTAIN
12 Skydiving
13 Silence: The Place of Being
14 It’s the Thoughts That Count
15 Doing . . . Doing . . . Undone
16 It’s All Grace

Acknowledgments
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Juanita Campbell Rasmus

Juanita Campbell Rasmus is a speaker, writer, spiritual director, and contemplative. She copastors the St. John’s United Methodist Church in downtown Houston with her husband, Rudy. Pastor Juanita has served as a member of the board of directors of Renovaré and she cofounded Bread of Life, Inc., a nonprofit corporation, with Rudy in 1992. Juanita most recently teamed up with Tina Knowles Lawson and Beyoncé to help forty thousand flood victims recover in the wake of Hurricane Harvey in Houston.