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Things Your Mother Never Told You

A Woman's Guide to Sexuality

by Kim Gaines Eckert

Things Your Mother Never Told You
  • Published: January 10, 2014
  • Item Code: 7187
  • ISBN: 978-0-8308-7187-2

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"Sexuality offers important lessons about God, about ourselves, about the life that he is calling us to now, as well as a vision of the life that he has ultimately created us for—one of constant love and physical union with him in eternity."

Sexuality is core to our personhood. Conversations about sex and sexuality matter, because they are really about our identity as people created in the image of God. So why aren't Christians talking about it?

In this frank exploration of all aspects of what it means to be a sexual being created by God, psychologist Kim Gaines Eckert explores common myths that we have absorbed from popular culture and distorted religious teaching. As women, in particular, we are flooded with images of disconnecting, degrading sexuality. It is easy to develop distorted views, but our sexuality as women is a reflection of how we have been created in God's image. Some myths that Eckert debunks include:

  • Sex is god or sex is evil
  • Sexuality should not be talked about
  • You must experience erotic sexual satisfaction to be fulfilled

Neither our identity as sexual beings nor the gift of sexual pleasure is the thing itself. God has created us for union with Himself, and sex and sexuality are signs that point us toward that ultimate good. Allow this book to be your companion into a journey to deeper self-understanding as you explore things you may never have discussed with anyone else.

"Kim Gaines Eckert gives Christian women a much-needed voice on the issue of sexuality. She thoughtfully dispels distorting sexual myths, brings wisdom to cultural pressures and gets to the heart of female concerns. This book conveys hope and redemption within a sexually confusing world. It is an excellent read for men as well as women."

Doug Rosenau, author of A Celebration of Sex, and coauthor of Soul Virgins

"Redemptive, wise, practical, honest and tender, this book is a welcome addition to the conversation about women's sexuality."

Sarah Bessey, author of Jesus Feminist

"Kim Eckert deepens the discussion about sex to a profound exploration of our sexual soul. Practical and redemptive, this book explores who you are as a woman intimately connected to a loving God, to yourself and to others. Truly a provocative, fabulous read!"

Marnie C. Ferree, LMFT, CSAT, author of No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction

"A refreshingly grace-filled and intelligent discussion on the ever-daunting topic of sex. . . . Read this book, share it with friends and pass it around. Not only will you find things your mother never told you, you will find things society, church and culture never told you. These pages contain a no-nonsense honesty that, if applied, will change our lives and the lives of those we seek to love."

Shayne Moore, author of Refuse to Do Nothing


1. You Are Sexual and It Is Good
2. More Than an Act
3. Beyond the Battle of the Sexes
4. Sexual Self-Image in a Girls-Gone-Wild World
5. The Shame of Silence
6. Sex, Power and Fifty Shades of Grey
7. Healing from Unwanted Sexual Experiences
8. Sexual Disappointment
9. Redemptive Sexuality
Appendix A: Going Deeper
Appendix B: Growing in Community
Further Reading


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Kim Gaines Eckert

Dr. Kim Gaines Eckert is a licensed psychologist in Chattanooga, Tennessee, where she maintains a private counseling practice at the Relationship Therapy Center. Dr. Eckert came to Tennessee in 2002 to join the faculty of Lee University. She now teaches at Lee on an adjunct basis and is the clinical director of the Lee University Play Therapy Center. Dr. Eckert holds an undergraduate honors degree in English and anthropology from the University of Michigan, as well as a master's and doctorate from Wheaton College. In addition to her two books with InterVarsity Press, she has also published in Today’s Christian Woman, Psychology for Living, and Youth & Christian Education Leadership. Dr. Eckert is a national speaker and has been featured on programs such as Moody Radio's Prime Time America, and Midday Connection.