InterVarsity Press

Conversations: Getting Life Together

Anonymous:

I'm finding your book, Walking Away from Faith, comforting and stimulating. I would like to know the pre-requisites one would need to study under you. I have a GED and am 26 years old, but my education does not reflect my intelligence. My adult life has been somewhat stifled by depression and too much partying. Sorry this isn't about faith—though, I guess in a way it is.

Ruth:

Thanks for writing. I'm flattered that you would desire to study under me. I don't usually think of people studying under me because I always learn so much from my students in teaching situations—so, it's more of a learning community. You sound interesting. Who are you? And where do you live?

Anonymous:

Thanks for replying. Well, you asked who i am. I'm not quite sure how to explain that at this point. I've been many things: wrestler, friend, family member, music lover, alcoholic, addict. I've been to community college a few times but have never finished a term. I've dealt with the "darkest nights" due to chronic depression, but I have never given up because of my faith in Jesus. And I have loving family and friends.

Though my lifestyle has not always shown it, and I currently don't feel very close to him, yet I know I am. (I am a Christian and would one day like to identify myself as such with full confidence.) Anyway, I hope that explains a little.

I live with my mom as I get my life together, and I have everything I could ever need to get better. So don't worry about me—if some of this sounded grim. I have been touched by your your book Walking Away from Faith, so thank you.

Ruth:

Your message touched me. I know from the other side what your life is about. I have a 30-year-old son whose difficulties parallel yours in many ways. He no longer lives with me, and he works 2 jobs and owns some apartments and a house, and has a daughter through a failed marriage, but he struggles a lot with alcohol, etc. He wants to be a good Christian but his lifestyle doesn't show it. A year ago he started going to AA and was getting his life in order and was so happy, but recently things have begun to deteriorate again. I just want to shake him up and tell him how good life is when he's not dependent on alcohol, but he probably knows that.

It takes a toll on me, as your difficulties must take a toll on your Mom. I sure wish you could write back to me in a day or week or month and tell me you've gotten serious about your problems and are getting some help and have determined to let God help you in having a very productive and happy life. The decision is yours, my friend. I would rejoice if you would send me such news.

God's blessings. Shalom.