InterVarsity Press

Staying Together When an Affair Pulls You Apart

By Stephen M. Judah

(paperback)

"Stephen M. Judah could have become a distinguished research scholar and settled down in the academy as a teacher. Instead, he writes as a lieutenant wrestling in the frontlines of marriages coming unglued. His persistent, careful observation of human experience and his dedication to establish a model of triage for the wounded have given him visible wisdom and an authority unlike anyone I know who writes on healing for broken relationships. Look no further: this is the premier treatment of 'the affair,' and all of us will find ways to incorporate the wisdom the author offers."

—Donald M. Joy, Ph.D., Professor of Human Development and Family Studies, Asbury Theological Seminary

"Dr. Judah's experience and training reveal the need for high character to inform our marriages when infidelity breaches have occurred. This book can and will help those who desire to reconcile with their spouse and be restored to their family."

—Ken Blackwell, Ohio Secretary of State

"This wonderful book provides hope--the most important ingredient for recovery after infidelity. The hope rests on five essential disciplines: practical, step-by-step guidelines that help couples navigate the broken terrain and rebuild trust. I highly recommend it."

—Diane Sollee, M.S.W., founder and director, SmartMarriages.com

"This book reflects a deep understanding of the anatomy of affairs and how to survive them. Judah is a good writer, detailed and clear. Clinicians will find much to assist them in working with couples, and sophisticated readers will find excellent guidance in repairing their relationship."

—Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples

In Staying Together, Stephen M. Judah provides very helpful information about what kind of affairs exist, what causes affairs, and how affairs affect the offending party. The major contribution of this book is found in the author’s practical steps he offers couples who seek to reunite after experience infidelity.

—Truth Magazine, November 2007

Judah offers very practical advice in bringing healing and reconciliation to everyone involved, including the third party in the affair.

—The Daily Sentinel, May 5, 2007

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